You don’t
have to keep
holding
everything
together.

Maybe life looks reasonably functional from the outside, but inside you’re exhausted, disconnected, angry, overwhelmed, stuck... or simply aware that the way you’ve been doing things isn’t working anymore.

Maybe it’s showing up in your marriage. Your work. Your parenting. Your motivation. Your ability to communicate. Your relationship with yourself.

Maybe you’re tired of being the one who holds everything together.

Maybe you’ve become so competent at functioning that you’re not even sure what you actually want anymore.

And maybe you’re not looking for therapy.

That’s okay.

I offer practical, trauma-informed coaching for women who want to understand their patterns, reconnect with themselves and begin doing life differently.

Start with a free 15-minute conversation.

We’ll talk about what’s happening, what you want to change, and whether coaching feels like the right kind of support. With 25 years of experience as a psychotherapist I can help you cut right to the heart of what's happening and what you can do to change it.

Choose how we work together

Coaching:

Understand the pattern.

Build something different.

Sometimes you don’t need to excavate your entire past.

You need someone perceptive and experienced who can help you see what’s happening, understand how your history may be influencing it, and figure out what you want to do differently now.

Trauma-informed coaching is practical and forward-moving.

We might work on relationships, communication, boundaries, emotional regulation, conflict, major transitions, identity, purpose, resentment, over-functioning, people-pleasing, accountability or getting unstuck from patterns you already recognize.

We can acknowledge where a pattern came from without making your past the center of the work.

The focus is on increasing awareness, making different choices and creating a life that feels more coherent with who you actually are now.

Especially when you’ve been carrying too much

Many women become extraordinarily good at managing.

The household. The emotional temperature of the family. The calendar. The children. The relationship. The work. The money. Everyone else’s needs.

From the outside, you may look capable.

Inside, you may feel resentful, depleted, invisible or increasingly disconnected from yourself.

You may notice that you:

automatically take responsibility when something needs to happen
struggle to ask for help without also managing how the help gets done
feel guilty when you prioritize yourself
become angry when other people don’t notice what needs to be done
have difficulty identifying what you need until you’re already overwhelmed
keep functioning long after your body is telling you something has to change
feel responsible for other people’s emotions
know something needs to shift but don’t know how to stop being the person who holds everything together

These patterns usually developed for good reasons.

They can also become exhausting.

Coaching gives us a place to slow the pattern down enough to actually see it, and begin experimenting with something different.

When relationships are struggling

I have a particular passion for helping people understand what happens to them inside relationships, and I also offer relationship coaching.

Maybe you over-explain because you desperately want to be understood.

Maybe you pursue connection while your partner withdraws.

Maybe you shut down once you feel dismissed.

Maybe you become hypervigilant to everyone else’s mood.

Maybe you are constantly managing the relationship and wondering why you’re the only one doing the work.

Maybe you can communicate beautifully everywhere except with the person you love.

Or maybe you genuinely love your partner but no longer know how to reach each other.

These patterns make sense in context.. and they can change!

Individual coaching can help you become more aware of your own nervous system, recognize your relational patterns, communicate more clearly, tolerate difficult conversations, strengthen boundaries and show up differently in the relationships that matter most.

You don’t need to become a better version of yourself.

You may already have spent years trying to be better.

More patient.

More productive.

Less reactive.

More organized.

More understanding.

More accommodating.

More emotionally evolved.

The goal of this work is not to turn you into another self-improvement project.

It is to help you understand yourself well enough that you can stop automatically repeating strategies that no longer fit.

Sometimes the work is about doing something differently.

Sometimes it is about finally allowing yourself to stop doing so much.

Sometimes it is about figuring out what is actually yours—and what never was.

You don’t need to arrive with the right words.

You don’t need a diagnosis.

You don’t need to already understand your childhood.

You don’t need to know exactly what you want your life to look like.

And you definitely don’t need to have everything figured out before you contact me.

You just need some sense that something could be better than it is right now.

We can start there.

Is coaching the right fit?

Coaching is designed for people who want practical, nonclinical support around patterns, relationships, communication, transitions, identity, boundaries and change.

It is not psychotherapy and does not include diagnosis or treatment of mental-health conditions.

If what you are experiencing requires deeper trauma treatment or clinical mental-health care, I also maintain a completely separate psychotherapy practice through Root Wellness Studio and can help you determine whether that kind of support may be more appropriate.

Not sure what you need?

That’s exactly what the free consultation is for.

Book a free 15-minute Coaching Fit Call.

Tell me a little about what’s happening and what you would like help with. I’ll help you determine whether coaching, or potentially another kind of support altogether, seems like the best next step.

In-person coaching is available at Body & Soul Sanctuary in Lafayette, Colorado, with virtual options available depending on the service and location.

Please note: This consultation is not psychotherapy and is not appropriate for urgent or crisis support.

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Why work with me?

I’ve spent more than 25 years helping people understand what happens underneath the surface of their relationships.

I earned my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2001 and have devoted my career to studying relationships, attachment, trauma, and the nervous system.

But I also believe insight only matters if it helps you live differently.

My coaching approach is warm, direct, deeply attuned, and practical.

I’ll help you understand the patterns keeping you stuck, teach you concrete ways to change them, and support you in building new patterns and habits that feel better to actually live inside.

FAQs

Can I talk with Amy before I decide?

Absolutely. Start with a free 15-minute Therapy + Coaching Fit Call.

You can tell me a little about what’s going on, what you’d like to change, and ask any questions you have. We’ll also talk about whether practical coaching or deeper psychotherapy seems like the better fit.

There’s no pressure to book anything afterward. It’s simply a place to start.

How do I know whether I need coaching or therapy?

You don’t have to figure that out before you contact me.

Coaching tends to work well when you want practical, forward-moving support around relationships, communication, stress, boundaries, life transitions, purpose, or patterns you’re ready to change.

Psychotherapy may be more appropriate when trauma, significant mental health symptoms, or deeper emotional wounds need focused clinical treatment.

My background includes both, so I can help you think through which path makes the most sense.

What if I’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t really help?

That’s more common than you might think.

You may already understand exactly why you do what you do and still find yourself shutting down, getting defensive, avoiding difficult conversations, losing your temper, overworking, or repeating the same relationship patterns.

Coaching is intentionally practical. We’ll understand enough about where a pattern comes from to make sense of it, but our focus is on what you can notice, choose, practice, and change now.

Insight matters. But insight alone doesn’t always create change.

What will we actually do in coaching sessions?

We’ll start with what isn’t working and what you want to be different.

Depending on what’s happening in your life, we might work on communication, relationships, conflict, boundaries, emotional regulation, stress, confidence, accountability, major decisions, life transitions, or feeling stuck.

You’ll learn to recognize your own patterns in real time and develop concrete ways to respond differently.

The goal is for you to leave with greater clarity about yourself and something useful to actually do with it.

Will I have to dig through my entire childhood?

No.

Your history matters because it helps us understand how you learned to protect yourself, relate to other people, and respond under stress. But coaching does not require excavating your entire past.

We’ll understand what’s relevant and keep bringing the work back to your life now.

If it becomes clear that something from your past needs deeper trauma healing rather than coaching, we can talk about whether psychotherapy would be more appropriate.

Is this mostly relationship coaching?

Not necessarily, although relationships are one of my specialties.

Women often come to me because something is happening in a marriage or partnership, but individual coaching gives us room to focus entirely on you: what happens inside you, how you respond, what you need, what you avoid, and what you actually have control over changing.

We can also work with career, stress, identity, parenting, boundaries, major transitions, purpose, or simply the feeling that the way you’ve been living isn’t working anymore.

Do I need to commit to long-term coaching?

No. I want this work to be useful, focused, and responsive to what you actually need.

Some women come in with a very specific problem and need relatively short-term support. Others discover there are several areas they want to work on.

We’ll keep evaluating what is helping and whether continuing makes sense rather than assuming you need indefinite coaching.

What is Amy’s professional training?

I earned my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2001 from Notre Dame de Namur University in California and have spent more than 25 years working with relationships, trauma, attachment, and the nervous system.

I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor and practicing trauma therapist in Colorado, with advanced experience in Brainspotting, couples work, intensive trauma healing, and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy.

Women’s coaching is a separate, non-therapy service that allows me to bring that depth of experience into a more direct, practical, action-oriented way of helping you understand yourself and create meaningful change.

Energetic Agreements

This work is collaborative. I will bring my full attention, experience, intuition, directness and care to our sessions. I ask you to bring something too.

Start with honesty. You don’t need to impress me or have the right answer. But I do need the real answer.
Bring your agency. I am not here to rescue you, manage your life, convince you to change, or do your emotional labor for you. I’ll help you see the terrain. You decide where you’re going.
Be willing to look at yourself. We can talk about what your partner, parents, boss or ex did. But our work lives in the place where you have power: your choices, patterns, reactions and next moves.
Take responsibility without collapsing into shame. Accountability is not self-attack. We can name something you did that caused harm without turning it into a verdict about who you are.
Don’t outsource your knowing to me. I may see things quickly and I will tell you what I see. But I want you developing your own discernment—not becoming dependent on mine.
Expect me to challenge you. I’m warm, but I’m direct. If I see avoidance, defensiveness, intellectualizing, blame, self-abandonment or an old protective strategy running the show, I’m probably going to name it.
Stay in the room when something gets uncomfortable. You are always allowed to slow down, disagree, say no, or tell me I got something wrong. What I ask is that we work with discomfort rather than automatically escaping it.
Tell me when I miss you. I don’t need you to agree with me. If something doesn’t land, say so. Honest disagreement gives us much more to work with than compliance.
Do something with what we discover. Coaching cannot live only inside our sessions. Experiment. Have the conversation. Practice the boundary. Notice the shutdown. Make the decision. Try something different.
Respect the container. Come on time, protect the space from unnecessary distractions, communicate directly, and honor the agreements we make about scheduling and payment.
I will not work harder on your life than you do. I can offer an enormous amount of clarity, experience and support. Your willingness to engage with it is what makes coaching powerful.
You are ultimately responsible for your life. The goal is not for you to need me. The goal is greater sovereignty—the ability to hear yourself clearly, tolerate what is true, make conscious choices, and become someone you trust.

You don’t have to keep holding everything together.