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Maybe life looks reasonably functional from the outside, but inside you’re exhausted, disconnected, angry, stuck, overwhelmed—or simply aware that the way you’ve been doing things isn’t working anymore.
Maybe it’s showing up in your marriage. Your work. Your motivation. Your parenting. Your ability to communicate. Your relationship with yourself.
And maybe you’re not even sure you want “therapy.”
That’s okay.
I offer both deep trauma-focused psychotherapy and practical, trauma-informed coaching for men. You don’t have to decide which one you need before we meet.
Start with a free 15-minute conversation. We’ll talk about what’s happening, what you want to change, and which kind of support makes the most sense. We can also talk about if ketamine assisted psychotherapy is a good fit.
Choose how we work together
Coaching: Understand the pattern. Build something different.
Sometimes you don’t need to excavate your entire past.
You need someone perceptive and experienced who can help you see what’s happening, understand how your history may be influencing it, and figure out what to do differently now.
Trauma-informed coaching is practical and forward-moving.
We might work on relationships, communication, boundaries, emotional regulation, conflict, major transitions, identity, purpose, accountability or getting unstuck from patterns you already recognize.
We can acknowledge where a pattern came from without making your past the center of the work.
Psychotherapy: Heal the deeper layers of what’s underneath
Sometimes the current problem has deeper roots.
Old trauma, childhood experiences, attachment wounds, shame, loss, chronic stress or relationship patterns can continue shaping your nervous system long after you intellectually understand what happened.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor and trauma specialist with more than 20 years of experience, I offer psychotherapy designed to go beyond simply talking about the problem.
Our work may include Brainspotting, nervous-system-oriented trauma work and other experiential approaches to help address what your system is still carrying.
Therapy may be the better fit if you’re dealing with significant trauma, mental health symptoms, longstanding emotional patterns, or material that needs the containment and clinical depth of psychotherapy.
Especially when relationships are struggling
I have a particular passion for helping people understand what happens to them inside relationships, and offer relationship coaching too.
Maybe you shut down when conversations become emotional. Get defensive before you even realize you’re doing it. Avoid conflict until things explode. Feel responsible for fixing everything. Struggle to identify what you’re feeling. Or genuinely love your partner but don’t know how to reach each other anymore.
These patterns make sense in context—and they can change.
Individual work can help you become more aware of your own nervous system, communicate more clearly, tolerate difficult conversations and show up differently in the relationships that matter most.
You don't need to arrive with the right words.
You don’t need a diagnosis.
You don’t need to already understand your childhood.
And you definitely don’t need to have everything figured out before you contact me.
You just need some sense that something could be better than it is right now.
We can start there.
Not sure whether you need therapy or coaching?
That’s exactly what the free consultation is for.
Book a free 15-minute Therapy or Coaching Fit Call. Tell me a little about what’s happening and what you’d like help with. I’ll help you determine whether psychotherapy, trauma-informed coaching—or potentially another kind of support altogether—seems like the best next step.
In-person sessions available at Body & Soul Sanctuary in Lafayette, Colorado, with virtual options depending on the service and location.
Please note: This consultation is not a therapy session and is not appropriate for urgent or crisis support.
Why work with me?
I’ve spent more than 25 years helping people understand what happens underneath the surface of their relationships.
I earned my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2001 and have devoted my career to studying relationships, attachment, trauma, and the nervous system.
But I also believe insight only matters if it helps you live differently.
My coaching approach is warm, direct, deeply attuned, and practical.
I’ll help you understand the patterns keeping you stuck, teach you concrete ways to change them, and support you in building new patterns and habits that feel better to actually live inside.
FAQs
Can I talk with Amy before I decide?
Absolutely. Start with a free 15-minute Therapy + Coaching Fit Call.
You can tell me a little about what’s going on, what you’d like to change, and ask any questions you have. We’ll also talk about whether practical coaching or deeper psychotherapy seems like the better fit.
There’s no pressure to book anything afterward. It’s simply a place to start.
How do I know whether I need coaching or therapy?
You don’t have to figure that out before you contact me.
Coaching tends to work well when you want practical, forward-moving support around relationships, communication, stress, boundaries, life transitions, purpose, or patterns you’re ready to change.
Psychotherapy may be more appropriate when trauma, significant mental health symptoms, or deeper emotional wounds need focused clinical treatment.
My background includes both, so I can help you think through which path makes the most sense.
What if I’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t really help?
That’s more common than you might think.
You may already understand exactly why you do what you do and still find yourself shutting down, getting defensive, avoiding difficult conversations, losing your temper, overworking, or repeating the same relationship patterns.
Coaching is intentionally practical. We’ll understand enough about where a pattern comes from to make sense of it, but our focus is on what you can notice, choose, practice, and change now.
Insight matters. But insight alone doesn’t always create change.
What will we actually do in coaching sessions?
We’ll start with what isn’t working and what you want to be different.
Depending on what’s happening in your life, we might work on communication, relationships, conflict, boundaries, emotional regulation, stress, confidence, accountability, major decisions, life transitions, or feeling stuck.
You’ll learn to recognize your own patterns in real time and develop concrete ways to respond differently.
The goal is for you to leave with greater clarity about yourself and something useful to actually do with it.
Will I have to dig through my entire childhood?
No.
Your history matters because it helps us understand how you learned to protect yourself, relate to other people, and respond under stress. But coaching does not require excavating your entire past.
We’ll understand what’s relevant and keep bringing the work back to your life now.
If it becomes clear that something from your past needs deeper trauma healing rather than coaching, we can talk about whether psychotherapy would be more appropriate.
Is this mostly relationship coaching?
Not necessarily, although relationships are one of my specialties.
Men often come to me because something is happening in a marriage or partnership, but individual coaching gives us room to focus entirely on you: what happens inside you, how you respond, what you need, what you avoid, and what you actually have control over changing.
We can also work with career, stress, identity, fatherhood, boundaries, major transitions, purpose, or simply the feeling that the way you’ve been living isn’t working anymore.
Do I need to commit to long-term coaching?
No. I want this work to be useful, focused, and responsive to what you actually need.
Some men come in with a very specific problem and need relatively short-term support. Others discover there are several areas they want to work on.
We’ll keep evaluating what is helping and whether continuing makes sense rather than assuming you need indefinite coaching.
What is Amy’s professional training?
I earned my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2001 from Notre Dame de Namur University in California and have spent more than 25 years working with relationships, trauma, attachment, and the nervous system.
I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor and practicing trauma therapist in Colorado, with advanced experience in Brainspotting, couples work, intensive trauma healing, and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy.
Men’s coaching is a separate, non-therapy service that allows me to bring that depth of experience into a more direct, practical, action-oriented way of helping you understand yourself and create meaningful change.
Energetic Agreements
This work is collaborative. I will bring my full attention, experience, intuition, directness and care to our sessions. I ask you to bring something too.
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Start with honesty. You don’t need to impress me or have the right answer. But I do need the real answer.
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Bring your agency. I am not here to rescue you, manage your life, convince you to change, or do your emotional labor for you. I’ll help you see the terrain. You decide where you’re going.
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Be willing to look at yourself. We can talk about what your partner, parents, boss or ex did. But our work lives in the place where you have power: your choices, patterns, reactions and next moves.
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Take responsibility without collapsing into shame. Accountability is not self-attack. We can name something you did that caused harm without turning it into a verdict about who you are.
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Don’t outsource your knowing to me. I may see things quickly and I will tell you what I see. But I want you developing your own discernment—not becoming dependent on mine.
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Expect me to challenge you. I’m warm, but I’m direct. If I see avoidance, defensiveness, intellectualizing, blame, self-abandonment or an old protective strategy running the show, I’m probably going to name it.
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Stay in the room when something gets uncomfortable. You are always allowed to slow down, disagree, say no, or tell me I got something wrong. What I ask is that we work with discomfort rather than automatically escaping it.
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Tell me when I miss you. I don’t need you to agree with me. If something doesn’t land, say so. Honest disagreement gives us much more to work with than compliance.
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Do something with what we discover. Coaching cannot live only inside our sessions. Experiment. Have the conversation. Practice the boundary. Notice the shutdown. Make the decision. Try something different.
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Respect the container. Come on time, protect the space from unnecessary distractions, communicate directly, and honor the agreements we make about scheduling and payment.
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I will not work harder on your life than you do. I can offer an enormous amount of clarity, experience and support. Your willingness to engage with it is what makes coaching powerful.
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You are ultimately responsible for your life. The goal is not for you to need me. The goal is greater sovereignty—the ability to hear yourself clearly, tolerate what is true, make conscious choices, and become someone you trust.